MBTI in Gender -- Men & Women Personality Differences

When it comes to personality types the differences between men and women are pretty clear. In this post we will explore some of the main differences.

by Quinton Figueroa on April 16th, 2015

Let's first look at some data from different places:

Okay, let's look at some more data.

Sorted with most likely to be male at the top:

And most likely to be female at the top:

Breakdown

So from this data we can already clearly see a few main trends:

E

Women

I

Men

S

Both

N

Both

T

Men

F

Women

J

Women

P

Men

SP

Men

SJ

Women

NF

Women

NT

Men

Extroverted VS Introverted

Women are more likely to be extroverted while men are more likely to be introverted. This makes sense as women generally do get energy from socializing and being around people while men are generally okay being alone more so than women. Men evolved where they were the providers and hunters for the family while women stayed home with the children and other families. Women have children and are biologically geared more towards children than men. These types of biological truths make for more extroversion with women while men have a biological history of more solitude and survival than women do. Men would hunt, go to war and do things that required self-reliance and more introversion than extroversion. Men are generally more capable of being alone than women are.

Again, of course there are exceptions, this is simply the trend as clearly illustrated by the data. There are many other explanations as to why this is. This is simply one of them.

Thinking VS Feeling

When it comes to thinking and feeling we need to first replace these words with something more accurate: T = things, F = people. Thinkers are into things while feelers are into people. This is probably one of the most obvious differences between men and women. And the data completely supports it.

Men are much more into things like cars, engines, mechanical stuff, technological stuff and so on. Men like this kind of stuff. Women are more into people. Women would rather spend time with people than spend time working on a car. Women would rather spend time trying to organize some type of business built around helping people or even animals. Men would rather spend time trying to organize some type of business built around building something. The end result of Ts usually deals with some-thing while the end result of Fs generally deals with some-body.

Judging VS Perceiving

The J and the P aspect is also fairly straightforward. Women are generally much pickier than men. Women are much more likely to want things a certain way and get upset if they're not that way. In contrast men could care much less. Men are generally more easy-going and less likely to get upset if something isn't exactly right or organized. Men are more easy-going than women.

This also makes sense from an evolutionary perspective. In general women choose their mates while the men try to get chosen by a female. The man usually asks for the women's hand in marriage rather than the other way around. This positions women in the choosing role. Women's sexual resources (eggs) are scarce while men's sexual resources (sperm) are plentiful. Because of this men are a lot less picky when it comes to women than women are with men. Women biologically have to be picky with men because it is their eggs that they are investing into a relationship. This core biological reality makes for a much more J woman when it comes to preference.

Throughout history men have generally done more physical labor than women. Men are out getting dirty and dealing with a reality where they can't be picky. Throughout most of history women have generally been indoors nurturing family and children while men have been outdoors transforming nature and the elements. Because of this women were able to focus more on aspects that you can't focus on if you're doing physical labor. All of these types of things add to why women are more likely to be J than men.

When you say something like, "Ah F#*K it" that is pure P. That's something a P would say because it is accepting of not having full control or knowing the exact outcome. It's an uncalculated statement. Who's more likely to say that?

Sensing VS iNtuition

There isn't a clear winner when it comes to sensing and intuition. Both men and women are mixed in this category and this makes perfect sense if you've read any of my other posts about the S/N relationship. In my view S/N has much less to do with preference and much more to do with your level of evolution in the world. S/N is more about the magnitude that you put into life as opposed to a more trivial choice of red or blue like the other MBTI dichotomies.

So both men and women are S and N. Women are more SJ while men are more SP. J and P are both physical, external aspects while T and F are both non-physical, internal aspects. As a person shifts from the physical SJ/SP world they move into the non-physical NF/NT world. SJ women shift over to NF while SP men shift over to NT. Women approach N in the NF flavor while men approach it in the NT flavor. NF is female energy while NT is male energy.

There are also more sensors than there are intuitives. It doesn't have anything to do with male or female either. There are more male sensors than male intuitives just as their are more female sensors than there are female intuitives. More evidence that the S/N relationship is mixed between the genders.

So all the data makes perfect sense. Of course there are exceptions. But for the most part this fits.

Now let's look at 2 more interesting charts:

Again this further enforces what we have already said. Over 50% of women are 1 of 4 temperaments: ISFJ, ESFJ, ESFP or ISFP. This makes sense since these are all based around F and J is more prominent than P.

For men 50% is distributed among 5 main ones: ISTJ, ESTJ, ISTP, ISFJ or ISFP. This makes sense since this is more based around T than it is F. The reason you still see SJ in here is because SJs make up around 50% of the population, both male and female. So most people in general are going to be SJ regardless of gender.

The most common men temperaments are essentially the reverse of the most common women temperaments:

# Men Women
1 ISTJ ISFJ
2 ESTJ ESFJ
3 ISTP ESFP
4 ISFJ ISFP
5 ISFP ENFP
6 ESFJ ISTJ
7 ESFP ESTJ
8 ENFP INFP
9 ESTP ENFJ
10 INTP ESTP
11 INFP ENTP
12 ENTP ISTP
13 INTJ INTP
14 ENTJ INFJ
15 ENFJ ENTJ
16 INFJ INTJ

So there you have it: the primary MBTI types associated with each gender and the main differences. If you really look a lot more into this stuff you can find a lot more interesting nuances and patterns that would really make for an interesting conversation, but I'll leave those for you to discover :)

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alat bantu: info

A page with the content of the article is very good, hopefully success accompany you this good article writer.

poots: question.

hi. do you think that being an ENTJ female in a world where most females are SJ makes us fucked up?
not only do i not understand women and they me, but, men expect me to be SJ and i'm not. granted, most men really like me but that's cause i'm not a geek. would love to hear your thoughts on this.

Quinton Figueroa: There's not a lot of ENTJ
@poots (view comment)

There's not a lot of ENTJ women and it comes across as a more masculine temperament. You are who you are. Since most people are S and you're N it already puts you in a different category with a lot of people. Most people are into surface level S stuff and you're probably not. And since you're NT and not NF you're going to come across more rash and direct which is guy-like and not as feminine. Women are usually NF and not NT. Again, this is a broad generality. Obviously there are tons of NT and ENTJ women. But it is the most rare for women. So you're a rare woman. I would consider that a good thing. Being rare and unique is awesome.

I'll give you a bit more of my opinion on this...

Most guys like women that are weaker than them and I think most women like guys who are stronger than them. Women are hypergamous where they like to date and marry up. And an ENTJ is about as strong as a temperament as you get. So there aren't a lot of guys that are stronger than you. In a relationship you would probably run the show moreso than the guy. It's not at all a bad thing, but I think a lot of guys don't like this and would be turned off by it. And at the same time I think a lot of women like guys who have some balls and aren't weak. So it would be harder for you to find a guy that is even stronger than you are since you're already an ENTJ.

Again, this is all based off of you being an ENTJ. I obviously know nothing about you and there could be way more to it than this of course. Just giving you my thoughts because I have thought a lot about this kind of a thing. As I stated earlier, I think the main thing is probably not the ENTJ but the N. Most people are S which is probably where you don't relate. When you're around Ns you probably do really well regardless of whether they are NT or NF. Ns and Ss clash a lot. It's two different worlds.

Tanner: Source?

Where did you get this data? What's the source?

Not questioning you, just want to see where the data came from.

Quinton Figueroa: https://www.google.com/search
@Tanner (view comment)

https://www.google.com/search?q=mbti+gender&num=100&safe=off&client=ubun...

There's a lot of good data here. The more data you collect the greater you can find the patterns.

Alyssa: Intp

This was a really good study, I myself am an INTP woman so I was t to surprised to see most women don't have the same track mind as me. I think it would be interesting to see the MBTI percentages compared school curriculums, I've always found myself leaning towards math and science, so most guys seemed to find me a bit intimidating in the math class room. It seemed to be a wide spread thing for them to turn down my help or refuse to acknowledge I had surpassed them in math or construction. I think this sort of thing is common with men and woman with unusual MBTIs, however moreso with women, some things I've noticed with 'unusual' MBTIs.

Shannon Hulbert: MBTI Project

I am currently a senior in college doing a project about the MBTI. I sampled students at my college and asked them a series of questions about their major, career path, and other variables, as well as having them take an online version of the test. I thought you might be interested in some data I found! I thought it was really cool that the personality ENFJ is on the rarer side, yet it was the most popular personality type out of my surveyed participants! They were overwhelmingly Psychology and Science majors. I was also pleased to see that the data on this website matched mine in that there were significantly more female Fs and Js than males.

Taylor W.: I love reading about these

I love reading about these MBTI statistics and facts for so many reasons, but I guess the two main reasons are to gather up more information and to (once again) confirm my rarity; both of which are pretty typical for me, being an INTP female.
Admittedly, whenever I see how many Feeling females there are (especially E ones), it really, REALLY agitates me. I don't like the idea of so many people of my sex being so ruled by their emotions and not really thinking. I'm aware that this is somewhat of a stereotype and not necessarily true, but it's hard to reason with a lot of females I've met like that. If I'm candid, I'm not fond of people like this (especially females), and often when I think of an ExFx woman, a scene of a lady going on and on about her day and her friends and shit to her husband who's trying to keep up (and is no doubt annoyed and bored by her incessant babbling) pops up. Then of course he zones out for a second, and she asks him a question which he doesn't know the answer to, which makes her angry, EVEN THOUGH he was listening. And later, this ignorant woman is crying (I dislike emotional crying a lot as well) to her husband about how he never listens to her, and that they need to talk more, as if they didn't have "conversations" (which really involve the female yakking). It's quite bothersome honestly, and I'm sympathetic for the every male in the world who has to deal with an emotional woman (or man, for that matter).
My apologies for rambling...I have a lot of thoughts and it can be hard to organize, so sometimes I'll just type them all down before I forget. I don't get to vent a lot because not only do I not have close friends, but the people I do occasionally talk to only want to comfort me instead of giving me a real solution.
I may be biased and have the tendency to stereotype people....but it's not like I'm completely wrong in thinking all of this. Does anybody have similar problems/views as me, or possibly have any insight on how to change this thinking a bit? Hopefully someone actually reads this. Again, my apologies for the excessive [and unnecessary parts of this] comment.

Zina: As an INTJ female I connect
@Taylor W. (view comment)

As an INTJ female I connect with what you're saying. I find MBTI theory has been really helpful in putting my life long awareness that I'm fundamentally unlike other women, and with that unable to "get" or identify with their values, insofar as mainstream culture goes, into a context.
I find I've had an opposite problem to yours, as I seem to attract people that want to tell me all about their problems and then get mad at me when I offer my opinion on what different solutions could look like. This is frustrating because I think, why do you want to talk to me about these issues if you're so uninterested in working toward solutions for them? I've never understood why anyone who knows me expects me to know how to comfort them in a "normal" way. Comfort seems to be more important than solutions for most people, maybe; for me, I'm comforted only after coming up with an option or two for how to "fix" or deal with my problem

Jonathan: I disagree with your

I disagree with your definition of T and F meaning 'things' and 'people'. It's pretty offensive to the T side, making them seem really shallow.

Quinton Figueroa: So Ts are more into people
@Jonathan (view comment)

So Ts are more into people and Fs are more into things?

Alma: What if....

Hmmm, what if someone is ambivert (half introvert and half extrovert). I know everyone is a combine of both introvert and extrovert, it's just which one is more dominant. But, what if.....

Philip: I'm a male ENTP and I

I'm a male ENTP and I imagined my perfect match as a xNTJ. Seeing how rare they are makes me a little sad. It's hard to believe I'll ever find one that's also interested in me...

Vince: Careful what you wish for
@Philip (view comment)

I am in INTP and my ex-wife is an INTJ. We got along very well (and still do). The match between such personalities is, of course, very logical. But as peaceful as it was, it was not very passionate (which is why the relationship ultimately settled into a friendship).

My eldest sister is an ENTJ. I love my sister, and she's a beautiful woman. Knowing her very well, though, and when I thinking of the men she has been involved with over the years, I am reminded of that Hall & Oats song wherein he says "watch out boy, she'll chew you up."

Point is, Phil, don't be so sure that such women are a perfect match for you.

Sian: I am of the second rarest

I am of the second rarest type for my gender. This.... Well, I guess I'm pretty disappointed. It's frustrating enough being an iNtuitive. All of my traits said "men" other than N. I? Men. T? Men. P? Still men. NT? Also men. Pretty annoying living a life as one of the rarest personality types of my gender that's also the second most common type in men, apparently.

Jessica: Female ENTP here. I knew I

Female ENTP here. I knew I was rare, and it makes sense that I am not a common female type since I often don't relate to other women as far as what makes me tick/gets me excited. I'm not sure that the NT types fit the idea of caring about things more than people. I guess it may be more that we care about ideas (as opposed to physical things). I do care about people, but I often want to draw them into conversations about the latest BIG IDEA that I'm excited about (read up on ENTPs to understand what that means!)
I do feel like some men are threatened or intimidated by women who have the more typically "masculine" types (like me). We tend to sometimes not realize when we are coming across as aggressive. Thankfully, I've been happily married to my ESTP husband for 16 years. If anyone can stand up to the challenge of dealing with a wife who is not super in tune with people's feelings, doesn't care much about details of the physical world, and has a need for frequent intellectual inquiry, it's my mover-and-shaker, doer husband. He compensates for some of my weaknesses and vice versa, and yet we're enough alike (soooo glad we're both P's, though it can make for a messy house at times! But living with a J spouse would be hard for me!) I'm glad I didn't end up with a type that would let me be overly dominant. Of the two of us, he's the decisive one, so I can sit back and throw out all my bright ideas and he can filter through them to help figure out which would work best, or he will let me know if they're all crazy and wouldn't work. And since we're both T's and not F's, we can usually take what each other dish out. Except for my "crazy days" leading up to a certain time of month, wherein I become a completely irrational, F-dominant female who will cry at the drop of a hat and feels completely inadequate and worthless. I am always so thankful when it passes and I can get back to being my regular geeky NT self again! Sorry to ramble on so long...another common ENTP trait! It's a good thing there's so few of us, because if we were a larger part of the population everything would be messy and nothing would ever get done on time! ;)

Itza Misterie: Poor Phrasing

As an ENTP female, I read this article and found it to phrase many things poorly. I personally found that it was painting certain traits in negative ways that were not objective to a reader seeking unbiased statistics. Consistently, this article made generalized and choppy statements that made conclusions based on trait stereotypes. @Zina @Taylor W. My fellow NT females, I find your comments to be defensive and obnoxious. An F trait is nothing to be ashamed of. There are so many strong types that use F, and I find it gross that you hold yourselves to be so high above everyone else. Let me ask you this:
Why is it that having a typically "masculine" trait makes you feel better about yourself? Why must you be masculine to be strong?

Julia: Answering your question
@Itza Misterie (view comment)

(Biased because: INTP, I agree with article and comments, not a fan of connecting the idea of "good and bad" to masculine and feminine, don't agree with your sentiment)

Why do you assert they “hold themselves to be so high above everyone else” and don't just complain about their Problems and how they feel?

I think I understand where your question is coming from. When the comments say “this ignorant woman is crying” and “This is frustrating…, why do you want to talk to me…?” and you say that: "An F trait is nothing to be ashamed of" and "Why must you be masculine to be strong", you think that they (@Zina @Taylor W) say: feminine, emotional = undesirable and bad, masculine, thinking= better. Well, i disagree.

TL:DR – It’s a misunderstanding of different language / communication. See four-sides model and most likely Transactional Analysis by Berne (source below). Also, it’s easier to associate with the group that understands you based on traits rather with the group that overwhelmingly doesn’t get you.

Lets say Person A is 70% Feelings und Person B is 70% Thinking. Person A will always be more confident und relaxed with everything F (People and Emotion) related. Person B, though having 30% F themselves, not so much – pretty sure they will resort to deal with it in a T manner. Now does the gender of a person changes anything? I don’t think so. A Male F will probably say the same things a Female F would say. The whole idea of MBTI is that you categories people by who they are, regardless of gender.

That said, it is interesting to see that there are gender differences (see data), probably due to Evolutionary psychology (my opinion). A Female T will “feel” better with T related things. Not because it’s better for everyone or more men are T and “its generally better to be more masculine” . It just agrees with more % of them. And since stereotypes represent what a lot of people think is most likely (you see, a lot of averages and majorities involved) , it’s known as masculine. Doesn’t make them less of a woman if they consciously decide to prefer one of her “masculine” traits over the other. A woman in a dress chopping wood, using her strength, is not a masculine per se. A man taking care of his children, taking a mother role, is not suddenly more feminine – think of a stay-at-home biker.

In theory at least. But since we talk about outliers, ENTP and more so INTP do have a problem: Following the option with the best chance of success (66% - Sum of TOP 5 types in Female), people will assume a woman is ISFJ, ESFS,ESFP, ENFP, ISFP and try treating her accordingly. On the other hand, switching from most likely female to most likely male behavior (51.8% of men are ISTJ, ESTJ, ISTP, ISFJ, ISFP) is also not ideal. Belonging to the 9.9% of rare females (sum of INTJ, ENTJ, INFJ, INTP, ISTP, ENTP – least likely) 24.6% of males have the same type. (pretty sure I got some number wrong …).
Requesting male treatment and advertising yourself as “more like a male” or having “a male Trait” is something almost everyone will understand immediately. 66% of femals get “not like me or most women” and 51.8 % of males can put you in the 24.26% of other males category.

Bonus anecdote: Women seem to display a very strong ingroup outgroup thinking (maybe “women are wonderful” effect). From personal experience I can tell you it feels better to think of yourself to be in a group that you share traits with than being in a group that outright rejects you as being weird, strange or wrong.

PS: if you want unbiased skip the phrases and read the numbers. Number are unbiased, Opinions are not.

Source:
Transaction Analysis – http://www.riazali.com/2015/08/16/transactional-analysis/
Four-sides Model - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four-sides_model
Evolutionary psychology - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evolutionary_psychology
Gender Differences in Automatic In-Group Bias: Why Do Women Like Women More Than Men Like Men? - https://rutgerssocialcognitionlab.weebly.com/uploads/1/3/9/7/13979590/ru...
Women are wonderful effect - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%22Women_are_wonderful%22_effect

Anyone: INTP woman
@Itza Misterie (view comment)

I agree with you 100%. I'm an INTP woman (close to yourself!), this article is poorly worded and women in the comments acting so proud of achieving a masculine result makes me lose faith in humanity. There's nothing wrong with having a feminine result like this article phrased it to be!

David: According to your data Men

According to your data Men are 2/3rds of NTs and most of the T's. So men are more rational and think more often than women.

Women are more F so they're more emotional.

So all of those "gender stereotypes" that people complain about are actually TRUE.

Wow who would have guessed except most of humanity for most of time.

Scarlett: There is always an

There is always an explanation for those who fit into the norm, but I have yet to see a sufficient biological explanation for those who do not fit into the norm, and it does occasionally make me feel lonely, although in the grand scheme of things I suppose it does not matter much.

I am an INTP female, one of the rarer personality types for a female. I am so introverted I've rarely had friends and at school they thought I was mute. Yet I have very strong opinions and honest thoughts. I fall on the moderate preference for these traits rather than the extreme. I am also the least desired personality type by males. I have definitely felt outcasted by females, and completely misunderstood by males. The guys who pursue me tend to see me as shy and sweet at first, and they precede to treat me like they would a female with a more common personality type which is a huge mistake on their part because they fail to see that I am much more stimulated by philosophical discussion and theories than I am by gossiping or talking about feelings. The last guy shut me down when I tried to have a deep conversation and wanted to gossip instead. It was so disheartening. I struggle in relationships dearly because deep down I know that if a man could just see me for who I am, and not for what women are supposed to be, then maybe we would have a chance. But in most of my relationships I end up being an intellectual ball-buster who apparently has no emotions (I do, I just don't believe them to be a priority when I can just use reason instead).

I know that in general, women are supposed to be extraverted, emotional and judging, as it's part of their biological makeup. I just never understood what was the biological explanation for those of us who fit outside the norm. Am I a biological "accident", for lack of a better word? It's something I do ponder on sometimes.

I have never suffered from PMS symptoms and I don't notice any personality changes throughout my cycle. Women talk about acting crazy and feeling neurotic when they get hormonal and I just don't know what they are talking about at all. It's like being an alien sometimes.

Quinton Figueroa: I think what you're saying is
@Scarlett (view comment)

I think what you're saying is true. I think NT women probably have it a lot harder than SF women when it comes to dating, at least in the early stages. I'm sure once you find somebody it will be deeper and stronger than most relationships. Ns in general have a bit harder time dating and being a female T is another mark that excludes you from most men. But at the same time, being an INTP, you may not be attracted to most men. I'm obviously not an expert, just giving my take.

I think for people like you who are outside of the norm it is less about biology and more about spirituality. That's just my take. I could get a lot more into it if you'd like, or perhaps I should write an article about it at some point. In my humble opinion people like you are taking on a role outside of the normal role in order to reach a higher level of growth and expansion. Going outside of the norm teaches you lessons and presents you with experiences that you would otherwise not encounter had you taken a more standard role. But it's more that just this in my view. This gets into reincarnation, non-gender spiritual topics and things of this sort. Being an INTP you probably have thought about this stuff a bit I would suspect.

I would think you're the opposite of an accident. I view most people who are outside of the norm (especially in a more conscious/thinking way, like an INTP) as people who are either prepared for or looking for a life with less training wheels. At a higher level you are probably looking for something deeper that will almost force you to grow in ways that will ultimately be more beneficial for you than had you taken the SF route. But you may not just realize it yet.

Slav: MBTI in gender

I like this breakdown. I came here because I was thinking if there's a tendency for men to be thinking vs feeling types and I got answer here. I rarely comment on sites like these but your bio caught my attention. I really like what you're trying to do here. I'm an entrepreneur myself (just starting out) and I've been fascinated by the technology as well. Especially AI, AR, blockchain and robotics. But in my opinion each and every different tech will play a major role in the coming years, not to mention that development in just one sector will feed the others substantially. An exponential growth, this is what is going to happen. When I've seen your bio to my mind came this organization: 80000 hours. Maybe you've heard of it or you'd be interested to have a look at what they do. Anyway, is there any chance we could have a chat? I do really like exchanging thoughts with inspiring people like you.

Aini: INTJ girl here

I'm female & INTJ, and I see that it's the rarest personality types for a female based on the chart in this post (and one of the rare types for male too). Being NTJ person,I don't really feel alienated from the others (my friends & acquaintances) and being introvert I am I don't really have many friends but I have enough close friends that I can trust. For me, I'm not really struggle with my NTJ, but I do feel more struggle with being introvert. Sometimes I feel envy towards extrovert people and wish to be one of them, I am trying to be more sociable but there is always something that hinders me like... an introvert I am, I often have difficulty in starting the conversation and finding right/interesting topics. Sometimes I tried to be more talkative but I found the person got bored instead with my conversation and then we ended up silent. I'm not really a shy person since I can take initiative to start the conversation and introduce myself to a completely stranger, but I do have a hard time whenever I am alone with group of strangers who already know each other. Sometimes I even have a thought that "perhaps the world exists only for extroverts" but that just my personal thought and this could be not completely right. My sister is ENTP and I could get along well with her, though of course getting along with family whom I grow up with is easier than getting along with strangers who could be my friends in the future.
Also I'm sorry if my english is hard to understand.

Axel: Your definition of T and F is

Your definition of T and F is sincerely wrong and nonsense.

Anyone: INTP woman

Although I got a "masculine" result, the way you worded this is terrible! I don't know if it was intentional of you to make the feminine traits seem like negatives; "women are picky", "women aren't as easy-going", "women can't handle being alone as often", when you could have easily turned this round, for example "women are more picky HOWEVER, this makes them more organised", "women aren't as easy-going HOWEVER they are more socially skilled", "women don't enjoy being alone as often YET, they make better care-givers on average". Not hard, is it? Sticking up for the ladies (and men) with "feminine" results.

Ezekiel: INFJ

INFJ here. I'm a guy. It's kinda funny seeing that 2.5 (62.5%) of my traits lean toward the feminine side, but it makes a lot of sense. I'm usually that annoyingly logical person, but people and relationships are much more important to me than anything else. I would give my entire intellect to have a small group of close and long-lasting friends. This makes being an introvert, and a guy, rather difficult. Age certainly helps smooth the rough corners of our personalities, though. For me, at least, that has been the case.

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