"You cannot control anything except the way you feel. "
"You cannot control anything except the way you feel. "
When it comes to personality types the differences between men and women are pretty clear. In this post we will explore some of the main differences.
Let's first look at some data from different places:
Okay, let's look at some more data.
Sorted with most likely to be male at the top:
And most likely to be female at the top:
So from this data we can already clearly see a few main trends:
Women are more likely to be extroverted while men are more likely to be introverted. This makes sense as women generally do get energy from socializing and being around people while men are generally okay being alone more so than women. Men evolved where they were the providers and hunters for the family while women stayed home with the children and other families. Women have children and are biologically geared more towards children than men. These types of biological truths make for more extroversion with women while men have a biological history of more solitude and survival than women do. Men would hunt, go to war and do things that required self-reliance and more introversion than extroversion. Men are generally more capable of being alone than women are.
Again, of course there are exceptions, this is simply the trend as clearly illustrated by the data. There are many other explanations as to why this is. This is simply one of them.
When it comes to thinking and feeling we need to first replace these words with something more accurate: T = things, F = people. Thinkers are into things while feelers are into people. This is probably one of the most obvious differences between men and women. And the data completely supports it.
Men are much more into things like cars, engines, mechanical stuff, technological stuff and so on. Men like this kind of stuff. Women are more into people. Women would rather spend time with people than spend time working on a car. Women would rather spend time trying to organize some type of business built around helping people or even animals. Men would rather spend time trying to organize some type of business built around building something. The end result of Ts usually deals with some-thing while the end result of Fs generally deals with some-body.
The J and the P aspect is also fairly straightforward. Women are generally much pickier than men. Women are much more likely to want things a certain way and get upset if they're not that way. In contrast men could care much less. Men are generally more easy-going and less likely to get upset if something isn't exactly right or organized. Men are more easy-going than women.
This also makes sense from an evolutionary perspective. In general women choose their mates while the men try to get chosen by a female. The man usually asks for the women's hand in marriage rather than the other way around. This positions women in the choosing role. Women's sexual resources (eggs) are scarce while men's sexual resources (sperm) are plentiful. Because of this men are a lot less picky when it comes to women than women are with men. Women biologically have to be picky with men because it is their eggs that they are investing into a relationship. This core biological reality makes for a much more J woman when it comes to preference.
Throughout history men have generally done more physical labor than women. Men are out getting dirty and dealing with a reality where they can't be picky. Throughout most of history women have generally been indoors nurturing family and children while men have been outdoors transforming nature and the elements. Because of this women were able to focus more on aspects that you can't focus on if you're doing physical labor. All of these types of things add to why women are more likely to be J than men.
When you say something like, "Ah F#*K it" that is pure P. That's something a P would say because it is accepting of not having full control or knowing the exact outcome. It's an uncalculated statement. Who's more likely to say that?
There isn't a clear winner when it comes to sensing and intuition. Both men and women are mixed in this category and this makes perfect sense if you've read any of my other posts about the S/N relationship. In my view S/N has much less to do with preference and much more to do with your level of evolution in the world. S/N is more about the magnitude that you put into life as opposed to a more trivial choice of red or blue like the other MBTI dichotomies.
So both men and women are S and N. Women are more SJ while men are more SP. J and P are both physical, external aspects while T and F are both non-physical, internal aspects. As a person shifts from the physical SJ/SP world they move into the non-physical NF/NT world. SJ women shift over to NF while SP men shift over to NT. Women approach N in the NF flavor while men approach it in the NT flavor. NF is female energy while NT is male energy.
There are also more sensors than there are intuitives. It doesn't have anything to do with male or female either. There are more male sensors than male intuitives just as their are more female sensors than there are female intuitives. More evidence that the S/N relationship is mixed between the genders.
So all the data makes perfect sense. Of course there are exceptions. But for the most part this fits.
Now let's look at 2 more interesting charts:
Again this further enforces what we have already said. Over 50% of women are 1 of 4 temperaments: ISFJ, ESFJ, ESFP or ISFP. This makes sense since these are all based around F and J is more prominent than P.
For men 50% is distributed among 5 main ones: ISTJ, ESTJ, ISTP, ISFJ or ISFP. This makes sense since this is more based around T than it is F. The reason you still see SJ in here is because SJs make up around 50% of the population, both male and female. So most people in general are going to be SJ regardless of gender.
The most common men temperaments are essentially the reverse of the most common women temperaments:
So there you have it: the primary MBTI types associated with each gender and the main differences. If you really look a lot more into this stuff you can find a lot more interesting nuances and patterns that would really make for an interesting conversation, but I'll leave those for you to discover :)Filed under: Personal Development, MBTI, Gender, Men, Women